Tolerance is not only a kind of accomplishment,more than a kind of virtue.To be tolerant does not mean being so timid,instead of it,it means magnanimous by keeping an open mind.
To be tolerant should own the characters of being strict to yourself and treating others with a heart full of mercy.Easily forgiving yourself is not toleraance and it's weakness instead of it.It also in terms of people to treat others with a heart full of mercy.It's sappiness to tolerate the people who don't treasure the tolerance.It's appeasement to tolerate the people who are not worth tolerating.And it's indulgence to tolerate the unforgivable people.Therefore,the tolerance itself is also a a branch of knowledge.
How wide the world is,but there exists something wider than it----people's heart.Let's learn to own the tolerance.
Jackie Chan, Chinese famous male actor, who enjoys great reputation all around the world. As his great influence, people keep their eyes on his family, not long time before, Chan’s son was caught taking drugs, this incident shocked all the people, they never thought his son were making such mistakes because Chan had declaimed that he hated people to take drug and he would take spare no effort to go against drugs. Since Chan’s son was in prison, the young guy’s career was ruined, people refused to see his movies or the things about him, the company has to give up on him. It seems that Chan’s son will not be accepted by the public, in my opinion, we should give this guy a chance, everybody will make mistakes, what’s more, he has regretted for what he has done, he know his fault, that is the most important.
Form victim’s aspect, forgiving the criminals is also a way of self-treatment. If victims and victim’s family members held a grudge against the criminals, they can’t forget the hurt as result of criminals’ mistakes. The wound in their body may be cured but the wound in their heart, in their mind and in their soul cannot be healed. The life of victims are no longer happy or beautiful, instead, it full of pain and hatred. What’s worse, some victims answer blows with blows, resort to violence and cause another tragedy. Take Bud Welch for example, his 23-year-old daughter was killed in the bombing of the Murrah Federal Building in 1995, at the beginning, he didn’t forgive the killer, he cannot deal with the pain of daughter’s death and started self-medicating with alcohol, and he even want the killer to fry. He was living in the hatred at that time. After he met with killer’s father and sister and talked to them, he came to recognized they also suffered pain. He found it in his heart he has forgiven the killer and it was also a release for himself. The dead had past, the mistakes had existed, injury had occurred, we cannot avoid it, but face it. Life goes on, we should not let hatred and pain destroy our lives. In some degree, forgiveness is not only save others but also save ourselves.